Over the course of our 10 years together, Shaun and I have taken trips to Canada, Mexico, Spain, England, Australia, Hawaii, California, Chicago, Maine, Florida, New York, and a double fistful of other states.
(Here we are in Kauai, Hawaii; 2-month-old Della is strapped to the front of me just out of the shot)
On those trips, we have hiked together, relaxed together, swum together, eaten together, played together, served together, laughed together, pretty much everything-ed together. With the obvious emphasis being “together.”
Granted, we’re together a lot when we’re home. Shaun works from his home office and often comes down for lunch, and we spend almost every evening together, but there’s just something so important about taking the time to get away from all the dailyness of life—the bottom-wipingness, the “did you get the oil changed”ness, the grocery-shoppingness of it all.
Even if you don’t have kids, chances are, you’ve got a whole lot of dailyness making it hard to turn your brain off to the constantly ticking to-do list and really focus on your spouse.
But, Abbie, you say, we don’t have the kind of budget that allows for trips to other states, much less other countries.
I totally understand. My husband travels a fair bit, and sometimes, we’re able to mix business with pleasure so that I can meet him in fun places like Chicago…
(I think I’m 25 weeks pregnant with the twins here)
…and California (where I’ve visited him 3 times).
And because his work has already paid to get him there, our costs are greatly reduced.
But other times, we have simply saved up, shopped around for great deals (vrbo.com and airbnb.com are both great alternatives to hotel rooms), and then bitten the bullet.
Because we know that memories are priceless.
Memories like racing along a road in Mazatlan in a pulmonia, snuggled close to my husband as the wind whips our hair.
So, my marriage-enhancing suggestion for you today is this: go trippin’ together.
Even if it’s just a few miles to a local bed and breakfast for the night. Or to a cabin a few hours away. Or to the nearest “big city” for a fancy dinner and a Pricelined hotel.
Get away from daily life and do cheesy things like stare deep into each other’s eyes, talk about your goals for the next six months, and hold hands.
It doesn’t have to be expensive or long or complicated. In fact, some of our simpler trips have been our best.
But I’ve never regretted the investment of either time or money. We always come back refreshed, recharged, and ready to refocus on the daily grind without losing sight of each other, and that renewed energy makes life’s little irritations that much more bearable and it helps us appreciate just how sweet it is to come home.
Oh, and on a practical side note, if you don’t have family close by who are willing to watch your kids like we do, you might consider swapping babysitting with another couple who are interested in taking a trip of their own. Chances are you have at least one set of friends
desperate enough willing to consider it.
Shaun and I are currently planning our 9th anniversary trip but can’t decide whether we want to swing for the fences or keep it closer to home. We’ve considered a lot of options, but none of them feel quite right. So, he told me to ask you guys for advice (yes, my husband realizes the value of having reader-friends :)).
So…if you had 5-7 days to take a trip, where would you go, and what would you do? (Descriptions of past trips and things that worked are welcome).
Do you make a point of taking trips with your spouse? I’d love to hear your thoughts!